Now, only you can determine which aspect is most important for yourself. You may need a partner who can be deeply intimate. However, you may find yourself drawn to a partner who is deeply spiritual and has less of a need for intimacy. You'll have to discuss with your partner your needs and desires, or your they may never have a true chance of being fulfilled. The only real and honest way you can know if you're compatible with a partner is to first know which areas of compatibility matter most to both of you. Once you've determined if your needs can be met it will be more apparent as to whether you can be compatible.
You can help your compatibility discussion by utilizing Numerology as a tool to determine more about your potential strengths and weaknesses as partners. People often ask me, "Can Numerology show compatibility between two people?" First, I ask, "Are you willing to work on the relationship?" and second, "What do both of you want from the relationship?" If the couple knows what they want from the relationship and are willing to work on the relationship, Numerology can assist them to more clearly see how they can be compatible.
For compatibility purposes we can look to the Family Name number to see where your core beliefs and patterns may influence your relationships. For instance, if your family was extremely religious (Family Name number of 9) and your partners family was more intellectual (Family Name number of 7) then you might have deep differences in your philosophical and religious beliefs, which would need to be talked about, especially if you have differing levels of need for intimacy.
Your Family Name number illustrates those beliefs, general emotions, common interests and aspirations that you have in common with your family. It represents shared and common interests and the strong bonds that you have with your immediate family. Psychologists have long looked at intergenerational patterns and how they shape our lives. These patterns can be neutral, positive or negative. You might become a doctor like your father and his father did. If your parents were openly intimate with one another, then it might be easier for you to be intimate with others.
We develop many of our habits by watching our parents and our families. As you look to your own family, you might see where you have unconsciously passed on certain beliefs to your own children. We often tend to develop similarly to our parents and grandparents. Without active intervention family patterns can tend to be repeated across generations. Some of our patterns can be connected back to our psychological connections with our birth family. Your connection to your family can influence the way in which you relate to others. Being aware and conscious of your emotions and how you connect with and relate to your family can help you to be more aware of how you are in relationship with others.
Your Family Name number can also be used to show how you might deal with and relate to challenging situations around money, feelings, work and stress. This number can help you to be more aware of the ways in which external influences can help, nurture or hinder you. Again, The family situation we grew up in was the reality that we knew and it helped to shape us. In relationship, it's important to know which of our personal patterns and beliefs can limit our ability to be intimate. Our families help to shape our beliefs and unless we are willing to challenge those beliefs that are self limiting, we'll hold some of them within us. It's up to you to discover ways to believe in yourself and move past limitations. As long as you are reacting unconsciously to your childhood issues and programming, you may keep repeating your old patterns.
Your relationship discussion can be about these patterns, beliefs and habits, but it doesn't have to start out being heavy and deep. In fact, it may benefit both of you to take an open, carefree and lighthearted approach to any compatibility discussion. In any relationship there are certain critical factors that can contribute to the ultimate success or failure of the relationship. Also, finding a way to develop compassion, acceptance, and tolerance for your yourself and your partner is critical to leading a healthy, intimate and fulfilling relationship.
With an honest discussion, or series of discussions, the factors that can hinder your relationship may come to the surface and you will then have the choice of doing the work that is needed around them. For instance, if you are both very driven and career minded, there may be little time for socializing or being romantic and intimate. The choice is yours as a couple. You can work on being compatible together or only hope that you are.
The questions below, based on some of the characteristics of the Family Name number, may give you a good starting point for a relationship compatibility discussion.
Questions to think about:
How important is quiet time together?
How important is getting to know one another's families?
How important is money to both of you?
What do you like to do together?
How are you with expressing your feelings, no matter what?
Can you safely discuss your partner's habits or behaviors that bother you?
Does stress prevent you from being intimate with a partner?
What do you feel a relationship might prevent you from achieving?
Do you feel that you need a relationship to feel complete?
Does being intimate equal romance for you?
What did your family teach you about intimacy?
Does being physical together equal intimacy?
